Thursday, July 10, 2008

Warning: He bites

Skyler has two black and blue welts with teeth marks surrounding them, one on her arm, one on her leg. I always hoped I wouldn't have a biter for a child. Reed is a biter.

He's gotten me several times before, and I can tell you it HURTS. The worst is when I have him in the ergo backpack and he bites my back. I feel so vulnerable when I carry him that way, like I'm a raw piece of meat in a tiger's cage.

This morning started out a little rough. Reed got Skyler within 5 minutes of being awake. Then he did it again at breakfast.

She wailed: WHY DOES HE HAVE TO DO THIS TO ME?!

I tried to explain that this is just the way that he shows how much he loves her. He doesn't do it out of anger, just of some need to clench down on something soft.

WHY DOES HE HAVE TO LOVE ME LIKE THIS?!

We spent the rest of the morning trying to keep them separated. Skyler would sit in the living room and yell: WATCH OUT! HE'S COMING AFTER ME!

It's hard to understand, and not even Dora bandaids eased her pain. The toddler book I have offers little help to me in the section about biting (though I am reassured that there is a section about biting, I guess). "Don't be an aggressive parent who pushes, shoves, or grabs your kids." Okay. Thanks.

"Don't bite back." "Don't laugh when your toddler bites." Again, thanks.

3 comments:

Kelly Jane Dahl said...

My friend Jamie's 2nd is a biter too. I guess you have to watch your toes in her house because Annie will quickly chomp. Next time I talk to her I see if she has any advice. We all have strange ways of showing our love at times! Cooper is a big fan of trying to strangle me. Fortunately his little hands can't get all the way around my throat....yet.

Christine said...

I'm right there with you, Emilie. Kristian's gotten me and Keith once each on the upper arm while we were holding him. It does hurt! After it happened I couldn't help but launch into all kinds of paranoid thoughts of how he'll be biting his way through Abraham Lincoln. God help us!

Christine said...

I don't mean THE Abraham Lincoln. I mean the elementary school for those not familiar with Bangor.