Remember when gay people couldn't get married in the state of Maine? Remember when we campaigned for Prop One in 2012? Remember when we did a flash mob in Bangor in support of Yes on One, and danced and cheered and hoped and prayed that Maine would vote the right way?
and then when Prop One passed, we had a big ol' party?!
|look at tiny Reed!!!|
The way that I explained Proposition One to my kids at the time of the election revolved around Sandi and Suzanne, who, by the way, have been together for 12 years. Should Sandi and Suzanne be allowed to get married? Yes, they should. It only seemed fair and obvious to the kids, plus, they thought a wedding would be really fun.
Having these two women in our lives has been an enormous gift from the beginning, and for many reasons. I first met them when Suzanne was pregnant with Ella and I was pregnant with Skyler, so we have truly raised our kids together. We have also run, biked, camped, cooked, and laughed together through all of these wonderful years. They are godmothers to Reed and best friends to us, and one added bonus is that there isn't the slightest thing unusual to my kids about a two-mom family.
Reed once reported to me that a boy at school told him that a woman could only marry a man, and Reed said: "Nuh-uh," and moved on. It's really that simple.
Just shy of two years after Prop One passed, and after Sandi finished grad school, the wedding we'd all been talking about for years happened, and we were all there to see it. It was as joyful and love-filled as any of us could have dreamed.
Sandi and Suzanne envisioned, planned, and pulled off the perfect, small, intimate, private and romantic wedding. We spent hours daydreaming and planning, and it was so much fun to watch it all come together. They rented a huge home (mansion) on the coast for the event, and we arrived the day before to help cook and to begin the celebration early. Check out this place:
The kids loved exploring this wild piece of property. It was magical.
Between cousins and dear friends, there were 11 kids at the wedding and at the house. They played hide and seek and ping pong and just frolicked around. And even though I might have asked Suzanne several times if she was SURE she wanted all the kids there? They were so right to include all the little ones, and the kids were AMAZINGLY well behaved. Probably because they were so happy to have so much room to run and so many friends to run with, but man, they were good.
|lunch time the day before. So many happy mouths to feed!|
The day before, Ange and I helped prep some of the wedding feast, and then we all enjoyed the rehearsal dinner. These families know how to celebrate:
|Suz and Ange|
|the happy couple|
|another happy couple|
The wedding was a total group effort. Sandi's sister Kristy did the flowers:
|apple, cheddar, beet tarts|
And the cake! Suzanne had baked (and froze) the three layers of the cake ahead of time and it was up to Ange and me to decorate it per her vision. We had many jokes about how much wine Suzanne had to have before she could see the cake, but I have to say, it turned out okay!
|triple batch of butter cream|
Pretty soon, the cake was done, the food was ready, the hair was up, and it was time to get everyone dressed into our wedding outfits. This was also a sort of trial run for Skyler and Reed to get them prepped for our wedding, which is next.
They clean up pretty well, I do say.
|Skyler with Sandi and Suzanne's daughters and niece|
I know I speak for more than just myself when I say: I am a better person and a better partner and a better mother and a better friend because of the light that has been shined upon me by the friendship of these two women, and by having them show us how to live and love deliberately. They are an example to all of us here, and to the world at large, about what love really does and should look like.
Sandi and Suzanne, thank you for showing us that when you orient yourself toward a life of love, it surrounds you. Today we bless you as you continue on down your path of commitment, that we can now call marriage, and as you navigate the many turns in the road ahead of you, know that we are right behind you.
|not sure what is happening here...|
|Ange, on the right, has spent the last many months helping to plan and strategize both of our weddings. That means Ange has had THREE BRIDES texting and calling her about invitations, flowers, and food. What a good friend.|